Monday, January 18th, 2021

I Have Nothing to Wear

“I have nothing to wear”. At some time in our lives most of us have had the experience of looking into our closets and uttering those words while a closet full of clothes stared back at us. What happens is we don’t have an outfit  we feel good wearing, expresses how we feel or the outfits we have just don’t match the occasion. When this happens we inevitably opt for the easiest and most time-tested outfit.

Most women wear the same outfit or a similar version over and over again. For every person the reason might be different but it is usually because this is where we feel most comfortable. If your clothes are expressing who you really are and you love your clothes – great. However, if your go-to outfits are not an expression of the real you then maybe it’s time for a change.

Whether you love your clothes or not, if you are not wearing all of the clothes in your closet then it’s time to create some space. More space in your closet will make you feel lighter and happier. Clothes that you aren’t wearing are not only taking up space they are also carrying energy. For example, a skirt or pants you can’t wear anymore because they’re a little too tight is a constant reminder that you have gained weight or that you feel need to lose weight. Even if you don’t really think it when you see that item (and you might think it) subconsciously the thought is there, stealing your joy. Constant reminders of bad choices (no matter what the reason) are also an energy drain.

If you’re tired of not feeling great in your clothes it’s time to make a change.

Now is a perfect time to get rid of all those clothes that:

  • Don’t fit
  • Itch
  • Ride up
  • Too tight
  • Too baggy
  • Are the wrong colour
  • Create bad memories
  • Are the wrong size
  • Bought on sale and have never worn
  • Worn
  • Don’t fit your lifestyle

Imagine this… You love every item in your closet. You open the doors and you feel inspired to get dressed. You love the styles, the colours and all the options you have.

To have your closet like this you must first get rid of everything that is taking up precious space.

Set aside a couple of hours (a Saturday morning works well) and go through your closet. For every piece you pick up ask yourself why you bought it, if you wear it and if you love it. How you answer these three questions will tell you if it should go or stay. I know from experience that women have trouble getting rid of certain clothes that are cluttering their closets. Usually because there’s a sentimental attachment or they paid a lot of money for it. If this happens, just put it in storage for 6 months and revisit it later. If you feel this way about many items it might be wise to look into the energy around those clothes.

Your next step is to create a closet that is joyful. Start by choosing only styles that represent your authentic self. Those will be the clothes you feel beautiful wearing and you will get your joy back. Sigh…


How to Wear It – Polka Dots

These are the outfits from each picture.

Picture #1 Same colours, different print (horizontal stripes and polka dots) with white jacket.

Small polka dots and large polka dots – same pattern on a larger and smaller scale.


Same polka dot combination with a bright colour jacket (bright colours are also trending this season.)

Here are 3 (three) more ways to wear polka dots – it’s never ending. 🙂


How to Dress to Suit Curvaceous Hips

If you’re like most women off-the-rack clothes don’t fit you as well as you’d like. Designers don’t design clothes to fit the average woman who happens size 12 and not size 0. Since this is what all women have to  work with wouldn’t it be nice to know how to choose the best styles and dress to suit our curves?

How to Dress to Suit Large Hips:  The most common question I hear from women who have large hips is “How do I make my hips appear slimmer?” Since women who have large hips usually have large thighs the styles I will suggest are slimming for both hips and thighs.

Wear Jeans, Pants and Skirts in Dark Colours: Dark recedes and light expands so wearing darker colour  pants and skirts will make your hips appear slimmer. Choose jeans in boot cut and pants in a wide leg.

Wear Jackets That Fall Below the Hip: Jackets that end above or at the hip create a horizontal line that gives the illusion of width. Keep jackets below the hip. Jackets and bottoms of the same colour create a slimming look.

Wear Prints on Top: Prints attract attention and bring the eye upward.


  • Baggy clothes – they will make you appear larger.
  • Coats without structure and a drawstring bottom.
  • Print pants and skirts


How to Build a Wardrobe: 7 Pieces – 5 Outfits

Do you LOVE what you wear? Having an awesome wardrobe, loving what you wear and getting dressed easily, is not about spending a lot of money (that actually can cause the problem) but more about buying the RIGHT items.  Women who have this conquered have learned it. They might have learned from their mother (but that’s rare) or they’ve learned because they’re interested.

You don’t need to know everything about line, design and colour to dress better, but knowing a few of the basics will get you started.

The Basics:

  1.  Know what you love.  The styles you love to wear – your style personality,
  2.  Know your body shape,
  3.  Buy clothes that fit your lifestyle
  4.  Wear clothing that flatters your eye, hair and skin colour. .

Begin with finding your style code. It’s simply finding and determining the styles you feel most comfortable wearing and that reflect who you are (or who you’d like to be). The second step is to find your body shape so you can dress to accentuate it. Designers make clothes to fit a certain ‘model type’ – a type that most women don’t fall into so in most cases real women don’t fit well into the ‘ready to wear’ clothes found in most stores – which can make shopping very frustrating. Is it any wonder women don’t like to shop? When you know your body type you will know how to choose clothes that flatter you and don’t hide your beauty.

If you’re thinking you don’t have time for this and it’s too much to learn, and you’d like help with it. Reduce the stress by getting my help.

A great wardrobe is one that fits well into your lifestyle. For example, a stay-at-home mom will be best suited to a casual wardrobe. If her lifestyle changes her wardrobe will as well. This type of transition can be seen in women who are newly retired. Their closets are full of professional clothing that they no longer need. A little wardrobe change will get them back on track.

When you know your body shape, your fashion personality and your best colours you can start your wardrobe easily with just a few basics.  They must be in compatible fabrics, colours and designs. Here are some examples for a professional wardrobe using just four colours.

Here are just five outfits that can be made with these 7 pieces – more can be made. Adding  more accessories and a couple of different pieces can add a casual wardrobe.


Have You Stopped Wearing Your Most Important Accessory?


Did you think it was your smile? It’s not, but it’s a close second. Colour is the most important accessory. Why? Because it’s a detail – the most important detail you can wear. If you know how to work with colour you will look exceptional!

Like accessories colour brightens your outfit, adds interest and expands your wardrobe. Why then do so many women limit the amount of colour in their wardrobes and opt mostly for black? Simply put, black is easy to find, it’s easy to match, it doesn’t show dirt and it is slimming – dressing is much easier when you’re working with one colour (well, neutral). Is easier better? Do we look our best because what we’ve chosen to wear is easy? Are we maximizing our best features? Are we feeling as confident as we could? Of course the answer is no.  In a sea of black, we blend in with everyone else, there’s no fun in what we wear and in most cases black in not a suitable colour near our face. It’s draining, so we look dull and older.

What would our world look like if women became turned on to colour?  Psychologically, we would feel better – there’s power in colour. For example, wearing a yellow top instead of black would instantly make you appear more cheerful and approachable to those around you. If the yellow is your best yellow (there is a yellow that looks great on you) your skin will look clearer and vibrant. So naturally, you will get positive feedback which will lead you to feeling better. Now just imagine, if everyone wore colour – blue, green, pink, red – wouldn’t life be more interesting. I’m not saying to get rid of black entirely, just reduce its use and sprinkle in more colours.  To introduce colour into your wardrobe correctly there is a learning curve but it’s worth it.

Would you like to learn a little about choosing a great colour? Did you say, “Yes”? Let’s get started. Which looks better on you clear vibrant colours or subdued muted colours?

Some women look great in bright, clear vibrant colours while others look better in more subdued or muted colours. How can you tell which looks better on you? You can experiment using a mirror in good light – daylight is best. Let’s use the colour red. Every woman usually has something red in her closet but first a little about colour and intensity.

Intensity and Colour.  Intensity has to do with the amount of lightness and brightness in a colour – how clear or how muted a colour appears. Reds come in different intensitiy:

Bright, bold, vibrant clear reds – fire engine red

Bright, but more delicate reds – like strawberry

Slightly more subdued, more muted – like ruby

More Subdued and toned-down reds – dusty rose

Start with a comparison of bright colours – one bold, bright (fire-engine) the other delicate and bright (strawberry). Holding the boldest, brightest first just glance at yourself and see if your eye goes right to the colour or to your face and the colour at the same time. If the colour is too bright and bold for your colouring it will be overpowering and your skin will look washed-out and pale. If it’s right, your skin will look clearer and dark circles and blemishes will look less noticeable. Tip: If your glance brings your eyes immediately to the colour it’s too bright and bold for your colouring. Your eye should go to your face and the colour at the same time.

If this is the case, try a more delicate bright (strawberry) colour next. If your face lights up and your skin looks clear and radiant you’ve found your best intensity. However, if the colour is the first thing you see and you look pale and washed-out you’ll know that you need a more subdued muted colour red. Continue using the two subdued and toned-down reds to find the one that blends better with your skin.

Now you know which intensity is best, Bright bold; bright, delicate; slightly subdued or more subdued you’ll know that you will find the same with all colours. For example, if slightly subdued reds are most flattering then slightly subdued blues, greens, etc will be most flattering.


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