Monday, January 25th, 2021

How to Build a Wardrobe: 7 Pieces – 5 Outfits

Do you LOVE what you wear? Having an awesome wardrobe, loving what you wear and getting dressed easily, is not about spending a lot of money (that actually can cause the problem) but more about buying the RIGHT items.  Women who have this conquered have learned it. They might have learned from their mother (but that’s rare) or they’ve learned because they’re interested.

You don’t need to know everything about line, design and colour to dress better, but knowing a few of the basics will get you started.

The Basics:

  1.  Know what you love.  The styles you love to wear – your style personality,
  2.  Know your body shape,
  3.  Buy clothes that fit your lifestyle
  4.  Wear clothing that flatters your eye, hair and skin colour. .

Begin with finding your style code. It’s simply finding and determining the styles you feel most comfortable wearing and that reflect who you are (or who you’d like to be). The second step is to find your body shape so you can dress to accentuate it. Designers make clothes to fit a certain ‘model type’ – a type that most women don’t fall into so in most cases real women don’t fit well into the ‘ready to wear’ clothes found in most stores – which can make shopping very frustrating. Is it any wonder women don’t like to shop? When you know your body type you will know how to choose clothes that flatter you and don’t hide your beauty.

If you’re thinking you don’t have time for this and it’s too much to learn, and you’d like help with it. Reduce the stress by getting my help.

A great wardrobe is one that fits well into your lifestyle. For example, a stay-at-home mom will be best suited to a casual wardrobe. If her lifestyle changes her wardrobe will as well. This type of transition can be seen in women who are newly retired. Their closets are full of professional clothing that they no longer need. A little wardrobe change will get them back on track.

When you know your body shape, your fashion personality and your best colours you can start your wardrobe easily with just a few basics.  They must be in compatible fabrics, colours and designs. Here are some examples for a professional wardrobe using just four colours.

Here are just five outfits that can be made with these 7 pieces – more can be made. Adding  more accessories and a couple of different pieces can add a casual wardrobe.

 

Create an image of influence

3 Ways To Create an Image of Influence

Create an image of influenceHave you ever thought of how much influence you have? Have you wondered how you appear to your new prospect, the job interviewer, your new date, or your audience? Your level of influence comes from the first impressions you make – how you build your likeability, credibility and charisma. When we first meet someone we instantly make judgments and get first impressions from communication and non-verbal cues. Those impressions are quick, subconscious and come instantly. When someone first meets us they quickly assess our credibility or trustworthiness; our likeability, if we’re easy to be around and our attractiveness, how well we are put together. All of this together is our image.

Your image is not just your appearance, although appearance is a big part. Image is how you show up in the world – that energetic feel people get when they meet you. I’m sure you’ve met people who you instantly like, others you don’t trust and some with whom you have a wait-and-see attitude. The thing is they all might be people you will like or even become friends with eventually, but if it takes time you might never find out.

In a situation where you want to create a good impression and you don’t have a long time to do it, it helps to know how to create an instant connection. The reason you might not be creating a good impression has nothing to do with the person you are but more to do with how you project your energy.

You’re always broadcasting your energy and others are tuning in to your energetic field first by your behaviour – how you move (your body language), secondly by how you communicate – how you sound and what you say and thirdly by your appearance – how you’re dressed and groomed. When all of these are put together you are sending a message that is either helping or holding you back.

So what does it take to have an influential image? To be really short and to the point, it takes being in alignment with who you really are and how you project your energy. To get you started in creating an image of influence, I will share 3 steps that you can take right now.

  1. Be yourself. This means being comfortable with who you are, not worrying if you’re good enough, not worrying if you’ll say the wrong thing or trying to conform to what someone else likes or wants. Being able to ‘be yourself’ comes from being confident – believing you are good enough just as you are. Trying to be someone you’re not is very hard work. If you feel tired and drained after spending time with a group of people you don’t know well or have just met, you are probably not being yourself. When you are being yourself you’re comfortable and authentic. You’re credible.
  1. Create a credible appearance. Do you dress how you want or are you afraid that if you dressed in a way that feels good and inspiring you might ‘get noticed’? If you are afraid to stand out, maybe you dress down wearing baggy clothes, dull colours and drab styles that everyone else wears, to blend in. That’s not very inspiring and doesn’t create authenticity.

Do a quick assessment of your head-to-toe appearance – how do you dress, how are you groomed? Does your appearance reflect your reliability? How would you describe your clothes – pressed, wrinkled, worn, matched, mismatched? Does your appearance reflect your brand? Is it how you want to be seen? Would you trust you?

  1. Show your confidence in your body language. How you move tells others how confident you are. Your movements or non-verbal cues indicate how you feel about yourself and how you feel about others. Simply by standing straight, squaring your shoulders and relaxing, you can automatically feel more confident.

To further show confident body language, maintain eye contact and focus on your listener, or if you’re the listener, focus on the speaker. There’s no quicker way to lose credibility than to half listen and move your focus to everything and everyone who moves around you while you’re ‘supposedly’ listening. Make the speaker the centre of your attention and don’t forget to smile. A smile is contagious and not only makes you feel better but those who are the recipients of your smile feel better. Even if they don’t return your smile they connect with your energy.

Are You Sabotaging Your Image?

Are you Sabotaging Your Image?

womanfiguresI’m always super alert to what’s going on around me and lately I’ve been noticing a few regular themes that have been running through the lives of women I meet. Mostly what I’m seeing is that women are not stepping into their power – in fact, they are giving it away.

Looking through the lens of image (how you present yourself to the world) I see women giving away their power and sabotaging their image in several ways:

In choosing how they dress, women give away their power to friends who don’t mean well. In actual fact, if a friend doesn’t mean well – he/she isn’t a friend. That sounds simple, but it’s amazing how many women put up with bad behaviour from ‘friends’. Here are a few real life examples:

a) Sharon is shopping with a friend and she finds a dress she really likes. When Sharon steps out of the dressing room, her friend quickly tells her why the dress is not good for her. She says, “ I know you, and you’d never be comfortable wearing that type of neckline – it’s much too low”. Sharon immediately starts doubting her judgment; she doesn’t want to look revealing and rejects the dress (which she liked and looked great on her). Sharon just gave away her power when she started doubting her own judgment and gave in to her friend’s manipulation.

b) Lois is at a gathering and one of her friends says to her, “You look slim have you lost weight?” Before Lois gets a chance to answer and say she’s been working out her ‘friend’ says, “No, she hides it well”. Lois passes this off as a joke. Lois just gave away her power because she is keeping company with people who aren’t her real friends and who feel okay putting her down.

When you let other people dictate how you should dress or look, you are giving your power away and not being and showing your authentic self. If this is you, make a decision to stop now. How? Close your eyes and imagine how you really want to look. How would you dress if you knew you wouldn’t be criticized? What’s your ideal look?

Decide today to create a look that is YOU. Begin by finding out what styles you really like. The colours you would like to wear, how you want your hair styled. Visualize it first in your mind and then write it down.

If you’ve been living by other people’s “shoulds” for years and years it might be a little difficult to stop. Do it anyway!

In their behaviour women give away their power by saying yes when they mean no. One of the pillars of image is behaviour – how you show up in the world. When you don’t know what you stand for you lose credibility and personal power. An example of this is saying yes to the requests of others because you want to be liked or going along with the opinions of others because it’s easier (and you want to be liked). It might seem easier at the time but is a sure way to lose energy, credibility, joy and personal power.

It’s not enough to look great on the outside if you’re feeling small or insignificant on the inside. To regain your personal power the first step is to be aware that you’re giving your power away. The second step is to decide to stop and the third step is to make a plan to start living authentically.

The rewards are awesome!

More on this topic:

How Is Your Self-Image Affecting Your Personal Power?

7 Ways Women Stay Stuck

Are You Giving Away Your Power?

Buying On Sale Is Ruining Your Wardrobe!

are your shopping habits determining how you dress?When I ask women if they love what they wear and love how they dress the answer is usually, “No” and they go on tell me how bad they feel because of all the clothes they have that they don’t wear. The reasons women end up with clothes in their closets that they don’t wear are numerous. Some are: They follow trends – what everyone else is wearing, they listen to the bad advice of others, they have no idea what really looks great on them, they just buy what they’ve always bought, or the most common – they buy because it’s on sale.

A little while ago I did an interview with  a personal finance coach and we talked about how to invest in a wardrobe without breaking the bank. Through our conversation it became really clear how old programming determines how we shop for clothes, which ultimately leads to how much we love or don’t love them. I admit I’ve been guilty of this too.

I don’t know if any of us really escaped the indoctrination of how good it is and how smart we are when we get something on sale. This is evident when someone compliments you on something you’re wearing and you promptly tell him or her how little you paid.  I don’t ever hear anyone say, “Yeah, I really paid a lot for this”.

How can you have a closet full of clothes you love when you’re buying them on sale? It’s my experience that clothing bought on sale isn’t a good purchase because, items bought on sale are usually bought using emotion instead of reason – we feel smarter – we’re saving money. When we buy on sale we are buying for ALL the wrong reasons. However, if you’ve taken the time to know which styles and colours look best on you and have a system you follow, sale items can be a good purchase.

When women buy clothing because it’s on sale they’re actually paying more in the long run because the clothes don’t get worn – or worn just once. Also, because they aren’t  paying a lot they buy more. More clothes in your closet (that don’t have a reason to be there) is the cause of closet frustration.

Women, who have wardrobes they love, THINK differently about clothes. This is what they believe:

  1. Clothes are an investment. Buying good quality clothes costs less money in the long term because they last longer, fit better and look fabulous when chosen correctly.
  2. They deserve to feel and look their best: They feel better when they’re dressed well and they know they deserve it. They don’t see any righteousness in acting small or buying on sale.
  3. Mediocre is not an option: They don’t settle for clothes that are average. They invest in their clothing (usually women who do this do it in all aspects of their lives) by finding styles that suit who they are, who they want to be and how they feel.

If you see yourself in this and want to change and be a woman who invests in herself and  loves her wardrobe, your first step is to take action! Find Out How Here