Monday, January 18th, 2021

I Have Nothing to Wear

“I have nothing to wear”. At some time in our lives most of us have had the experience of looking into our closets and uttering those words while a closet full of clothes stared back at us. What happens is we don’t have an outfit  we feel good wearing, expresses how we feel or the outfits we have just don’t match the occasion. When this happens we inevitably opt for the easiest and most time-tested outfit.

Most women wear the same outfit or a similar version over and over again. For every person the reason might be different but it is usually because this is where we feel most comfortable. If your clothes are expressing who you really are and you love your clothes – great. However, if your go-to outfits are not an expression of the real you then maybe it’s time for a change.

Whether you love your clothes or not, if you are not wearing all of the clothes in your closet then it’s time to create some space. More space in your closet will make you feel lighter and happier. Clothes that you aren’t wearing are not only taking up space they are also carrying energy. For example, a skirt or pants you can’t wear anymore because they’re a little too tight is a constant reminder that you have gained weight or that you feel need to lose weight. Even if you don’t really think it when you see that item (and you might think it) subconsciously the thought is there, stealing your joy. Constant reminders of bad choices (no matter what the reason) are also an energy drain.

If you’re tired of not feeling great in your clothes it’s time to make a change.

Now is a perfect time to get rid of all those clothes that:

  • Don’t fit
  • Itch
  • Ride up
  • Too tight
  • Too baggy
  • Are the wrong colour
  • Create bad memories
  • Are the wrong size
  • Bought on sale and have never worn
  • Worn
  • Don’t fit your lifestyle

Imagine this… You love every item in your closet. You open the doors and you feel inspired to get dressed. You love the styles, the colours and all the options you have.

To have your closet like this you must first get rid of everything that is taking up precious space.

Set aside a couple of hours (a Saturday morning works well) and go through your closet. For every piece you pick up ask yourself why you bought it, if you wear it and if you love it. How you answer these three questions will tell you if it should go or stay. I know from experience that women have trouble getting rid of certain clothes that are cluttering their closets. Usually because there’s a sentimental attachment or they paid a lot of money for it. If this happens, just put it in storage for 6 months and revisit it later. If you feel this way about many items it might be wise to look into the energy around those clothes.

Your next step is to create a closet that is joyful. Start by choosing only styles that represent your authentic self. Those will be the clothes you feel beautiful wearing and you will get your joy back. Sigh…


7 Ways Fabric Impacts Your Outfit

If you looked in your closet and asked yourself, “How many of my clothes do I wear and how many of the outfits I wear do I LOVE?” What would your answer be?

You might wonder what ‘loving your clothes’ means. Does it mean ‘they’re okay, I don’t hate them’ or ‘this is as good as it’s ever been’ or ‘ I don’t believe I could ever love them while I still have weight to lose, I can’t afford something better, or….you fill in the blank’.

For me, loving my clothes means that as soon as I’m dressed in the outfit I’ve chosen for the day, how I feel instantly improves. It feels good, it’s comfortable and it brings out my best features.

I haven’t always felt that way. When I was younger I loved clothes  and dressing up but I didn’t know what to buy or how to put outfits together, I was usually never satisfied with what I’d chosen. It was either too small, to itchy, didn’t match or it lacked something to make it look great.  Because I saw other women dressing well, I knew it could be done and that’s when my education in line, design and fabric began.

It’s my intention to help you to start loving your wardrobe as well.  To feel great in any outfit something you must consider is fabric. Remember how I said it seemed I would buy itchy fabrics? Well, being itchy is not the only reason.  The right fabric will not only make you feel comfortable, it will also look great.

  1. When you shop how often do you consider fabric?  Fabric is amazing. Fabric can change the look of a jacket or skirt from office wear to evening wear.  For example, imagine a pencil skirt in three different fabrics. The shape of the skirt stays the same but where it is suitable to be worn and how it looks is quite different.
  2. The fabric you choose for the occasion is important too.  Cotton-polyester is great for a casual workplace like a sports store but is too casual for a law firm. A silk dress might be great for a summer party but unsuitable in a professional environment.
  3. Silks can be worn day and night all year long in a warm climate but in cold climates silk is usually worn during summer and for evening wear during the winter.
  4. Knits are great for business wear for all body shapes as long as they are not worn too tight. Tightness causes bulges at the waist, hips and above and below the bra line. It’s important to wear undergarments that fit well and don’t create extra bulges
  5. Fabrics that bag and sag will ruin the look of an outfit. This can be avoided by not purchasing inexpensive rayons and knits. The next time you’re shopping notice the difference in how they feel. Better fabrics are heavier.
  6. Fabrics should also balance each other.  Similar weights of fabrics easily balance each other, two light-weight fabrics for example or a light-weight with a medium weight and a medium weight with heavier weight fabrics. However, lately it has become trendy to wear fabrics of different weights together. It can be done strategically.
  7. High quality fabric (costs more) holds its shape, lasts longer and looks and feels good. It is worth buying fewer pieces that are good quality because you will look better and they will last longer.

Take a few minutes and go through your closet as ask yourself, “How many of my clothes really make me feel fabulous when I wear them?”  It might just mean making a few slight changes to make a big impact or you maybe you’d like some guidance in making your wardrobe be one you love.


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